Many people link the word trauma to violent, dramatic, or an overwhelming event such as a sexual assault, family violence, war, natural disasters such as landslides, earthquakes, cyclones, tsunamis etc.
While this is true, trauma can result from these terrifying events. It is also true that trauma can also born or develop in response to gradual and or painful emotional, physical and psychological experiences.
Traumatic experiences can also change the way we see ourselves, others and the world. Trauma can result from our close family relationships.
Children that experience abuse, neglect, witnessing violence, are separated from parents or siblings, or have been bullied at school or at home, or evan lack of validation or support, are likely to be traumatised. It can cause us to be easily triggered later in life. This can cause ongoing anxiety, depression, OCD, PTSD and anti-social or difficult behaviour. It can be insidious. It can interfere in all aspects of our lives, affecting relationships, work, play and much more.
It is not uncommon for the person to feel excessively guilty, or to blame themselves in some way. It is often the case that the person had no control over the situation but unfortunately still feels responsible. This happens a lot when the trauma happens as a child.
In any case trauma can play a major negative role in the quality of your life.
It is known that whatever the cause, trauma involves a feeling of profound violation to ones sense of self.
Some people are not even aware that they have been traumatised. Often people in long term abusive, (psychological and or physical) relationships, sometimes recognise that their behaviour has changed, but usually don’t understand why They may be having anxiety, depression, guilt, powerlessness, overwhelm, shame, hopelessness. Sometimes people feel exhausted, mentally spent and isolated when they have been in long term abusive relationships or have been living with prolonged distress over a long period of time. Some people feel stuck.
When people feel stuck, overwhelmed, oppressed, stressed, anxious, depressed they sometimes turn to alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, shopping, sex, risk taking, angry outbursts, yelling and many other dysfunctional behaviours, habits and or addictions.
There is help.
If you know someone who maybe affected, we can help!
We don’t need to dredge up the past and re-traumatise you again!
No we don’t need to do that at all. We will need to take a brief history to work out which range of therapies will suit you best.